What ever it takes

We are in the beginning stages of potty training, it is like we are in the training for potty training stage.    Starting in November, we spent several weeks just taking R. into the bathroom at the end of her daily ABA session.

The supervisor decided that the next step was to get R. to lift the lid of the toilet seat.  She wrote the program so that R. was supposed to open and close the toilet seat lid ten times in a row.   I stepped in immediately and said no way are you having her do that ten times in a row.  I mean talk about teaching a repetitive behavior.   It did not take too long for R. to master lifting the toilet seat lid once.

Sitting on the toilet is a problem for R., she does not want to do it at all.   If I want to get her out of the bathroom all I have to do is suggest she have a seat on the potty. (Maybe I should stop doing that).   The supervisor’s suggestion for the next step, is to have me sit on the toilet and put her on my lap for 30 seconds.    I did mention that this happens during R.’s ABA session.

So yesterday here I am in the bathroom sitting on the toilet with R in my lap, her male therapist watching and counting.   Counting out loud to 30 was the only way to get her to stop screaming and fighting.   To his credit, the therapist did not seem the least bit embarrassed or flustered.     I’m just going to have to get over it.

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  1. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this. We count while brusing HRH’s teeth, to distract him (a number fiend if ever there was one) and a while back when he was showing signs of being ready to toilet train I put him up on the toiled and total meltdown. It scared him so much that he is now no longer showing any sign of interest in being out of nappies. Sorry, got a bit long winded there, I now know to try counting when it comes around again…………thanks to you:)

    Best of luck with the training, I will be following with interest. Jen

  2. You are very welcome, I hardly know what I’m doing. The supervisor was a bit concerned that she might always count when she went potty, and I said I would welcome that problem!

    But I will suggest you don’t bother with having him sit on your lap. Today the supervisor came and changed the program again, to having R. sit on the toilet for one second at a time for ten times. Good luck to you too!

  3. Good for you. Potty training is the toughest part. Both of my kids took awhile. Good luck to you, and way.to.go. MOM!!!!!

    1. Thanks for the encouragement.

  4. I’m glad that you didn’t listen to the lid lifting advice…I’m with you on thinking that is not good advice! I can however totally recommend enlisting the help of an ABA therapist…I could not have done it on my own.

    1. I’m so thankful we have the ABA therapists to help with this.

  5. How old is your girl? Where is she on the spectrum? My daughter is 4 years and 4 months as of tomorrow. She’s high functioning. We only found out on the 1st December.

    Good luck with the PTing – I hope it won’t take too long.

    1. She will be four next month, at her last eval in March she was considered moderate functioning. Thanks for your comment

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