A friend and I each attended different support groups for the first time. We both went there with the feeling we knew what we were doing for our children and left with quite a few questions. I do think it is valuable to connect with other special needs parents, there’s a world of information out there that only seems be transmitted by this secret society. I like to hear about other children and their therapies and activities. But sometimes it is hard not to get into this endless loop of worrying if the therapy that parent X mentioned or the activity that parent Y mentioned is the missing piece of our intervention. Never mind that we probably could not afford it and have no time in the schedule for anything else.
It can be difficult to make decisions about my child that could potentially be life-altering. I think it is easiest to be confident when R. is making progress, and when things slow down I start to wonder about all the other things we could be doing. One of the facilitators of the support group said that it was important to remember that our children are individuals, and what worked for her child wasn’t going to be the answer for ours. I think she’s right. I don‘t think I’ll ever be able to stop wondering what if we did this or that. But now that I can look back on a year and a half of various therapies, I do feel like I can be confident about what is working.
So when I meet another special needs parent and she tells me her child is making great progress because of feline therapy and jello wrestling (yes I am making that up, and no I do not mean any offense to any therapy or intervention out there), I’m going to think and say I’m glad that’s working out so well for your child.